There are thousands of opportunities each day to take offense. Offense from people airing their views on social media, offense by the ‘tone’ in someone’s email.
The world seems to have exploded with discussions about race, about how we are letting our differences be a source of offense and criticism.
We are taking offense in our personal relationships, sometimes even over the smallest of things.
‘Cant believe she said that!’
‘What a ..##&§”
It feels horrible to have your opinion or views taken out of context and be held accountable for something you were not actually saying.
It hurts the heart that people can assume you meant one thing when in fact you meant something else.
You know what is even worse? When no matter how much you explain, you are sentenced to the prison of offenders.Nobody believes you.
We have all been treated that way, and have treated people the same way at one time or another.
Think about the expression ‘Take offense’ ….YOU….TAKE…OFFENSE. You actually pick it up and say, okay I am going to be offended.
Where does offense come from? Misunderstanding. You are misunderstood and the other person gets offended. You misunderstand and you are offended.
You misunderstand and you are offended.
You deliberately say something that you know will offend someone else…and vice versa.
People can be very very mean.
BUT you have the power to take offense or not.
What happens when you take offense? You carry it in your heart, you mull over it, you create a box with which to put the other person in. You declare them offensive, no longer worthy of your time, your communication, not even your thoughts!They are banished from that rosy garden of your heart and mind! Be gone!
They are banished from that rosy garden of your heart and mind! Be gone!
That offense also causes a blockage.You block the freedom of your heart, you block love from coming in and out. Offense can pile up until you can’t even get a trickle of love to come through.
“He that loveth his brother abideth in the light, and there is none occasion of stumbling in him.” — (1 John 2:10)
Offense closes you off and keeps you from loving yourself, loving your fellow man, and letting the love of God manifest fully in your life.
Imagine yourself sinking in a swimming pool, its quiet as the water fills your ears, you are holding your breath, you are sinking deeper and deeper.Each offense is adding weight to you.You can’t see it, but you wonder why as you continue to sink….
What do you do when you take offense. Realise that you have. Say out loud
“This is an opportunity to take offense, but I am not going to do it!I leave it right here and invite love into my heart.”
But when you release! You star to float, you’re going up and up and up until you break through the waters surface, arms raised you take a deep satisfying breath!As life giving oxygen fills your lungs, life surges within you! arms outstretched to the sky …you are free.
Release that person, and move on with a free heart. You have the power to not weigh your heart down with the unnecessary.
Fill your heart with love!